Two Essential Ingredients to Reducing Anxiety & Optimizing Resources

(C) Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

The past weekend was Thanksgiving in the USA. It was the perfect time to reflect on much more than all I am thankful and grateful for. I thought about what I bring to folks that others may not be able to bring. It is the two essential ingredients to reducing anxiety and optimizing resources...for a start.

As I spoke with friends over the weekend, friends of a similar age, those two essential ingredients came up over and over. We've all been through difficult times, tense times. As a single mother of three, receiving very little child support, I worked full-time and still managed to get three university degrees. I learned a few important, life-saving things about making dollars stretch, creating realistic budgets and maintaining healthy living. That's why I created the new membership website at http://www.TamingTenseTimes.com so that I can pass on all that I've learned as a Counselor, coach and single mother.

Now, I have grandchildren. One is a Generation X who is having a tough time realizing that the world doesn't owe him a living and that his Mom is not responsible for his pizza needs and that her days as a chauffeur are over. He has a job and he is nineteen. Sobering learning for many young people, for sure!

So,the two essential ingredients for reducing anxiety and optimizing resources are:

1. Tell the Truth...to yourself and others. We're all living in the same economy and you've got yourself into this position. Tell the truth. Don't look for anyone to blame. Just tell yourself the truth. Admit that you might have been living in a dream world complete with endless credit cards, and take charge now.

2. Get the Information You Need...to get on the path to true responsiblity and accountability. You are the only one who can do what it takes to create the situation you want. It's up to you. Get the help you need by finding the information that will make the difference.

These sound so simple, but, for many, they are not easy. They are, however, do-able. No one is coming to the rescue. You're an adult and you have to man-up or woman-up. A good friend once gave me a beautiful, decorative pillow with these words embroidered on it:

Put on your big girl panties and deal with it!

That's what we all have to do now. And, the sooner we do it, the sooner things will get better in our lives.

I know you can do it.
Rhoberta

P.S. I'll help. Get the tips, strategies and solutions by becoming a member of www.TamingTenseTimes.com and get your copy of Prevent Free Fall: Pack Your Own Parachute, too. Very practical. Very realistic. Very helpful. Do it now and get started right away!