It Came Upon a Midnight Clear...and kept me up!

(C) Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

It's that time of year when carols run through your head, especially because they have already been playing for a couple of weeks in department stores everywhere. But, it's a whole different matter when they relate to interrupting my sleep!

It came upon a midnight clear. It was the startling recognition that now, more than any other time, the things that I help folks do to build better lives, relationships and businesses are critical. There is no more opportunity to say,

"I'll get the help I need someday. This is it!"

You cannot save yourself out of a recession. You have to invest your way out of it, carefully and purposefully. You have to invest in the expertise that will help you personally move systematically forward right now. There is no time to try things. You have to find what works and consistently do it to create the results you want. That's where a coach's insights are objective and helpful.

So, it kept me up, thinking about how to tell folks how I can help them without looking like just another person wanting their money. The conclusion I came to was that I simply cannot do anything but tell you these two things:

> I've walked through difficult times before and not only survived, but thrived, so I can help you navigate through and profit.

> I've spent masses of money acquiring the insights, information and business acumen I have to help you create the life, relationships and businesses you want, so, you don't have to!

So, midnight and clarity. For me, it was recognizing how important it is to give the gifts I have. So, I'm creating several group coaching opportunities so that new clients can get kick-started. Let me know where you're at in your quest. I want to create coaching groups that will meet your immediate needs.

Now onto, Deck the halls.....

Cheers,
Rhoberta

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"It's time for a new vision for yourself. "

(C) Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

"It's time for a new vision for yourself."


That's what I've been saying to myself for the past four days. And, I'm right! It is time to step back and look at who I am and what I'm doing. More importantly for me, I need to look at how I am serving the life of the world.

What am I doing to make this world a more compassionate, loving and healthy place? Of course, I do that in my work as a speaker, coach and consultant. I help folks develop relationships that work, relationships with themselves, with those in their life and workplaces, that are healthy, focused and productive. In fact, those relationships are also profitable all the way round!

Working on the web with my sixty plus websites, I also offer a lot of practical and inspiring content. So, that's also working.

As I worked on this new vision for myself, I realized that my non-profit contributions of energy, time, talent and treasure were not quite as rich as I wanted them to be. So, I took an idea I had a year ago and found that its time had come. I'm starting a non-profit and the idea is catching on quickly. If you'd like to know more about it...and you either a) are a woman old enough to be a grandmother, or, b) would like to support a very loving organization meeting a currently unmet need, send me an email to wypate@yahoo.com and I'll tell you all about it before the website launches. I'll share the secret!

Cheers,
Rhoberta

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
Counselor. Consultant. Coach. Catalyst.
...and Founder of a very exciting new non-profit....:)

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Two Essential Ingredients to Reducing Anxiety & Optimizing Resources

(C) Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

The past weekend was Thanksgiving in the USA. It was the perfect time to reflect on much more than all I am thankful and grateful for. I thought about what I bring to folks that others may not be able to bring. It is the two essential ingredients to reducing anxiety and optimizing resources...for a start.

As I spoke with friends over the weekend, friends of a similar age, those two essential ingredients came up over and over. We've all been through difficult times, tense times. As a single mother of three, receiving very little child support, I worked full-time and still managed to get three university degrees. I learned a few important, life-saving things about making dollars stretch, creating realistic budgets and maintaining healthy living. That's why I created the new membership website at http://www.TamingTenseTimes.com so that I can pass on all that I've learned as a Counselor, coach and single mother.

Now, I have grandchildren. One is a Generation X who is having a tough time realizing that the world doesn't owe him a living and that his Mom is not responsible for his pizza needs and that her days as a chauffeur are over. He has a job and he is nineteen. Sobering learning for many young people, for sure!

So,the two essential ingredients for reducing anxiety and optimizing resources are:

1. Tell the Truth...to yourself and others. We're all living in the same economy and you've got yourself into this position. Tell the truth. Don't look for anyone to blame. Just tell yourself the truth. Admit that you might have been living in a dream world complete with endless credit cards, and take charge now.

2. Get the Information You Need...to get on the path to true responsiblity and accountability. You are the only one who can do what it takes to create the situation you want. It's up to you. Get the help you need by finding the information that will make the difference.

These sound so simple, but, for many, they are not easy. They are, however, do-able. No one is coming to the rescue. You're an adult and you have to man-up or woman-up. A good friend once gave me a beautiful, decorative pillow with these words embroidered on it:

Put on your big girl panties and deal with it!

That's what we all have to do now. And, the sooner we do it, the sooner things will get better in our lives.

I know you can do it.
Rhoberta

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